One of the feelings that can lead to violence is anger, which is nothing more than a state of emotional disturbance caused by a real or imaginary threat expressed in the form of insult, contempt, or action that triggers various emotions, including frustration or impotence.
Anger usually manifests itself in an aggressive, defensive, or destructive manner. Some people try to silence it by denying it, but the best they can do is camouflage it and then manifest it in another way. Sometimes it turns into depression, self-pity, bitterness, or breaks out through sarcasm.
For many psychiatrists, the matter involves developing personal skills that allow them to deal with feelings, so that they serve as a guide, that reveal the keys that allow us to understand what we think, even at the subconscious level . That will help us multiply our sensitivity to understand the people around us.
A mature woman controls her nerves and anger
A mature and psychologically stable person understands his feelings and controls his actions. The responses that he generates are, therefore, the result of his will and not of a quick and uncontrollable reaction. This also allows you to dispel your negative feelings in a constructive way, trying not to hurt others.
The important thing is to stop anger before it arises by changing the way we interact with the world, strengthening our will and training ourselves, when possible, in how we are going to respond to the situations that come our way. Let’s avoid being in situations that provoke our anger and remember that anger is our response to another person’s actions. It is up to us then not to let ourselves be provoked.
A good starting point might be to ask yourself or the other person some of the following basic questions:
-What has caused my anger?
-Is my interlocutor upset and that’s why he attacks me?
-Did I misunderstand what happened? Can you explain it to me again?
-Can you tell me why you behave the way you have?
-Is there a problem between us that is unknown and conditions this situation?
-Am I overreacting to a problem that doesn’t deserve so much?
-Is my reaction conditioned by some previous event or by some problem with another person?
